Why I Will Not Cheer for Tim Tebow
Tim Tebow once did a commercial on behalf of Focus on the Family.
Focus on the Family is known for their anti gay views. Focus on the Family believes that gay marriage is a threat against families. They also believe it is the intention of gays to destroy the concept of family altogether. Focus on the Family founder James Dobson has spoken at public forums encouraging people to vote against gay marriage. Focus on the Family also is against civil unions, and does not believe in any sort of legal unification between same sex individuals.
Many people argue “well, it’s not like he came outright and said he doesn’t agree with gay marriage”, and frankly that’s bullshit and a total cop out. If you expect to use your celebrity status for other causes (the commercial was for pro life) and get paid for doing so, you are responsible for your actions. It is not a secret that Focus on the Family is an anti-gay organization, and I will not let Tebow off the hook based on ignorance. He is an informed adult and should understand that by doing work for an organization, he is thereby condoning their beliefs and actions as an entire entity.
No, I will not cheer for Tim Tebow. No, I do not think he’s sexy, because working for an organization that does not want to see me get married one day makes him a very ugly person in my eyes. No, I do not think he’s cute when he bows in the middle of a field, or do I think he deserves the ample camera time he gets (seriously, he’s not that great of a quarterback, either).
Tim Tebow is bad for the gay rights movement. His fervent — and outspoken —religious beliefs encourage the very religious republican nomination candidates, such as Rick Santorum and Rick Perry, to continue their crusade against gay marriage on the back of Christianity. I respect his right to believe in whatever he wants, but I do not believe it is appropriate to consistently pander his beliefs in such a public way.
Oh, and I think it’s a joke that he claims he will always love Jesus more than his future wife. I think that speaks for itself.
I will not cheer for Tim Tebow, and I don’t think I should have to explain myself to every single person who guffaws at the idea I think he’s bad for this country and the gay rights movement.
Equality for all.
Sundays, a good Christian goes to church. They get up early and dress respectfully. They see their fellow church members and sing hymns. They get on their knees to pray, and donate money in the collection. They may have brunch afterwards, or maybe even a small gathering or a picnic.
Sundays, I sleep in. I get up a little before noon and wear my favorite pair of jogging pants. I call some buddies over to watch football, and we shoot the shit. We sit on our asses and occasionally bet money on the football games. We order pizza and drink beer, and enjoy swearing at the T.V. in language that’s not suitable for people that are faint of heart.
A good Christian listens carefully to their religious leader. They’re told how homosexuality is an abomination, that man shall not lie with man, and that they are going to hell. They’re told how homosexuality is a choice, and that these men have succumbed to evil urges and that homosexuality is dangerous. They bring their values home, where they learn to be homophobic without being at church; whether it’s a gay couple holding hands at the mall, or a gay couple on television. Their kids go to school the next day, then, and call all of the loser kids gay. If a kid actually appears to be gay, they will talk about him - both behind his back and to his face. They will have dinner like a perfect Christian family with perfect Christian values.
I, on the other hand, will enjoy the day with my friends. We’ll watch football, play PlayStation and Super Nintendo, and maybe play some cards. We’ll drink a little too much, eat a little too many snacks, and have a great day together. Our team might win - or lose - but it’s all moot in the end, because the important part was spending an entire day with the ones we consider close.
I can’t be told that religion makes me a better person, or provides me guidance in life. I see the cards out in front of me, I see these two options, and I pick the one that makes me a better person. I don’t know how those on reverse sleep at night - I don’t know how they can reconcile trying to be a good person and letting an organization put hate into your heart.
I’m a Sunday Sinner, and I’m okay with that. I’ll gladly take football with a side of beer over religious fervency with a side of hatred.
Homos are Here to Stay
One of the reasons I don’t understand the anti-gay folks is that I don’t understand their endgame. Do they think they are going to change the millions of homosexuals in the world? Do they think that at a snap of their fingers we’re going to go from rug-munchers and cock-suckers to reproducin’ heteros?
Tim Cook, CEO Apple Inc.
Ryan Murphy, Producer and Writer of multiple hit TV shows including Nip/Tuck, Glee, and American Horror Story
Ellen Degeneres, TV Show Host, among other talents
What do they think will happen if gay rights are removed? Do they think people will stop being gay? That these people will no longer exist? Do they really believe people will simply change who they are and turn themselves heterosexual, despite the decades they’ve been living with their spouse?
Chris Hughes, co-founder of Facebook
Anderson Cooper, Talk show host and news reporter
Elton John, Six time-grammy-award winning music artist
What happens if they win? Do people say “you were right the whole time!” and break up with their spouses to become heterosexual? Is there some sort of magic pill that magically can change our sexuality? Will there be a news bulletin telling people they have to be straight?
Barney Frank, U.S. Politician
Ian McKellan, Actor
Neil Patrick Harris, Actor
Do they have some sort of “plan” once they take away gay peoples rights? Will they throw us in jail? Send us to a deserted island? Kill us? What do they want here? What are they fighting for? Do they want to remain without sex the rest of our lives? Or to force ourselves to have sex with the opposite gender just because they want us to? Why do they care about what we do between the sheets?
Nate Berkus, Designer and T.V. Host
Chris Colfer, Actor, Writer, and Television Producer
Rachel Maddow, Political Commentator
The 2000 census in the United States that somewhere around 1.5% of the population identified as homosexual. Extrapolate that to the world population of 7 billion, that means there are at least 105 MILLION gay people in the world. Do people really think they can change the sexuality of 105 million people simply because they don’t like what they do in the bedroom?
Johnny Weir, Olympic Skater
Adam Lambert, Singer
Marc Jacobs, Designer
Quite honestly, this is exactly why I think people who believe that homosexuality is a choice or who are anti-gay are stupid. This is why I reserve the right to tell these people exactly what I think of them. Because millions of gay people isn’t a fluke, isn’t a choice, isn’t a trend. Because no matter what they say or how they restrict our rights, we’ll still be the same-gender-loving homos that we were yesterday, and we’ll be that way tomorrow, too. This is why I reserve the right to fervently and openly state how I think it takes a disgustingly ignorant and idiotic person to say that gay people shouldn’t have the right to get married and have a family, because they must be seriously ill to try and say that tens of millions of people will change who they are just because someone else cares about our sex life.
Tom Ford, Designer
David Geffen, Record Executive
Rosie O’Donnell, Talk Show Host
Homos are here to stay. The sooner people like Rick Perry and Michelle Bachmann realize that, the sooner everyone will start working towards the one thing in this world that matters for everyone, whether they be hetero, homo, black, white, man, woman, Christian, or Jew.
An Open Letter from a Sinner
Dear Mr. Terzek,
I want something bad to happen to you. I’m not talking about you getting harmed, I just want you to feel fear. True, unmitigated fear.
You see, when I come out, I’m probably not going to be able to speak to my parents. I’ll also stand to lose plenty friends. On top of that, I will likely face open homophobia from people I don’t even know, simply because I’m gay. If I find someone I love, there’s plenty of states where I won’t even be able to hold his hand without facing hatred. Some may go as far to beat, maim, or otherwise injure us based on who I have fallen in love with. Someone may actually murder me because I am gay. The chance is always there.
You see, Mr. Terzek, I’m afraid every day of my life. I am afraid today, I will be afraid tomorrow, and the day after that. I will always be afraid because of how I have to live my life in order to be happy.
I wish you could feel that fear. I wish you could understand just how painful it is to come to terms with your sexual orientation, and how admitting who you are is effectively committing yourself to a lifetime of judgement and hatred. Some people might luck out and not face anything at all, but there will always be comments. Rumors. Talking.
Do you think I would chose to live with fear? Do you think I would choose to face ridicule on a daily basis? Do you think I want to lose my parents? My friends? My safety? Do you think I do this to piss people off? Or to anger God?
I have never, under any circumstances, felt attraction to a woman. I have never once had any remote sexual arousal when exposed to any woman in any form, including my attempts at viewing straight pornographic material. I may have wanted to be the woman in some of those situations, but I never wanted to be with the woman.
I am sexually attracted to men. I like muscles. I like a cleanly shaven face. I like the smell of old spice. I like tight blue jeans on a guy’s ass. I like aviator sunglasses on a shaved head. But not only do I like these things, they also tend to get my dick hard. I’m sexually attracted to these things. I’m sexually attracted to men. As a character from the iconic television show Queer as Folk once said; “I like dick. I wanna get fucked by dick. I wanna suck dick. I like sucking dick. I’m good at it too.” Hope that wasn’t too much information for you.
I’m not sure, exactly, what you would have me do. Do you have a sister? Would you like me to marry her, instead? I have to warn you though, I won’t be in love with her. I’ll never be in love with her. We won’t have sex, which will be very difficult for her, as you can imagine. We’ll have a loveless marriage and resent each other. I’m not a big fan of divorce, so I’ll stick it out. We’ll be married a nice long while, and sleep in different beds much like Lucy and Ricky from the iconic T.V. show “I Love Lucy”. We won’t have any kids, because we won’t be having sex. As much as I want to have kids, I won’t be able to maintain an erection long enough to have sex with your sister. By the time your sister and I reach the end of the road, we’ll both have wasted our lives. She might come to you and ask “Taylor, why did I do this to myself? Why did I waste my life?”
And that’s what it comes down to. If I live the way you want me to live my life - YOU, Mr. Terzek, not God - I will be wasting my life. I won’t find someone to love, I will never feel sexual pleasure. I will never raise kids - and I want kids. I want to adopt three beautiful kids from American orphanages so kids who otherwise who could spend a decade in a rotting group home would instead have a family that loves them. I want to provide for them, raise them, and see them succeed.
Fall in love, marriage, successful kids. Guess I really am a sinner.
I don’t affiliate myself to any one religious doctrine. I like to think of myself as a good person who wants to love his friends and family in any way that I can, and overall be a good person and happy with myself. You seem to be of the volition that I have chosen my homosexuality and would be able to change that - change who I AM - in order to please my creator.
Sorry to break it to you, but I was born this way. If there is a God or Jesus Christ waiting for me on the other side, they both know I was created this way. Maybe he added just a dash too much of kind and compassion, but whatever the reason, I was born a homosexual man.
What I don’t think this God would have wanted was someone who tells people they are sinners. Who tells them that they are openly defying God’s will, and who are choosing to live a life of sin. Who tells them that they can change who they are based on sheer willpower, and who can be your definition of “normal”.
Quite frankly, you’re not normal. I believe in love, not the proliferation and pandering publicly of my religious beliefs. You seem to be comfortable with the idea of telling people that you know more about them than they do - that they chose their sexuality - and I don’t think your God is very impressed. I don’t think he’s too impressed you choose to openly spread hatred and insult the children he created. I don’t think you’re serving him at all, I think you’re serving a book that was written two thousand years ago by a man with a grudge. I see you as a sinner far more than I see myself.
Oh, one last thing. This financial crisis - led by a bunch of vagina-pounding Christian politicians - have caused my family to be in quite a precarious financial situation. Since we’re low on cash, my father has decided to sell his daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. What should our asking price be?
Do us all a favor and get off Tumblr. Tumblr is the one place in the world us gay folks can hide from the repercussions of how “God’s children” treat us for how he created us. This is a free world so I can’t quite stop you, but I can ask you to leave us Gay folk alone. There’s a lot of us around these parts.
I would “wish you a nice day” with the manners my parents taught me, but they also taught me to be honest. I’m not sure which sin - being disrespectful or lying - is worse, so I’ll be honest with you.
I hope you step in dog shit.
Youth in Need of Revolt
Someone I follow posted me something reminding my of my last trip into the city. Rochester New York is pretty liberal, even with our few redneck Republicans here and there. Along with a little sheltering from my parents, and by the time I was 21 I could count on a couple of fingers the number of times I had seen people in open protest of homosexuality.
Imagine my surprise, then, when my cousin and I were dropping off her girlfriend of two years at the American Idol concert. As I looked from my cramped position in the passanger’s seat of a PT Cruiser (that has several gay pride stickers on the bumper) I looked and saw a religious group protesting homosexuality at every entrance.
And side note, none of the thousands of 10-14 year old girls at the concert give a shit about learning about the dangers of homosexuality. They wanted themselves some Scottie McCreery.
Women and girls were wearing traditional flowered dresses, while the men sported long beards. The boys were clean-shaven wore blue slacks, crisp button up t-shirts, and suspenders. Obviously, they were from a very strict religious lifestyle. I won’t try and wager a guess as to what religion they were coming from, and frankly it doesn’t matter.
At a stoplight, I took a hard look at one of the boys. He looked to be somewhere around 20 years old, and he looked absolutely miserable. I can remember noticing how his sunken eyes and lethargic movements drew away from an otherwise attractive guy. He halfheartedly tried passing out pamphlets, but was waved away at every turn. He looked insecure, frightened, and terribly troubled. The light was gone from his eyes.
What kind of parent raises their child like this? Breeds them into a world of hatred and melancholy, while pandering ideas that are guaranteed to isolate, shame, and otherwise humiliate him. You are essentially bringing life into the world and subsequently destroying it before he has had a chance to live.
How do these people live with themselves? Do they lack a moral compass that let’s them know the difference from right and wrong? Can they comprehend that no matter how much hatred and loathing they spread, they aren’t going to rid this world of gay people, nor will they be able to damage the unbelievable amounts of love that pours out of the gay community.
They are hateful, mean-spirited, and destroy lives. They instruct others how to live their lives, without letting their children have lives of their own. How can they perceive this as God’s will? If these ideals aren’t reflective of what their devil stands for, I don’t know what is.
As we turned a final corner to head away from the arena, I looked at the smaller children that were standing around, dancing around in their decades outdated clothing, innocent to the fact that they would never lead normal lives. One day they would realize that there were people staring at them, and the spark inside them would go out. The light in their eyes would fade.
A shrill cry in the backseat lead me to turn around to my cousin’s girlfriend’s three year old daughter. She had dropped one of her plush toys, and I quickly retrieved it for her. She smiled at me fondly before slamming the stuffed animal into her face in such a manner that would make any person’s heart melt. She’s a happy little girl with two wonderful parents, who also happen to be women. Why do a bunch of miserable people in old clothes think they have a right to say what’s best for her? What kind of message is this to send to other kids, let alone their own?
I am hesitant to say there needs to be an end of their religion, because it’s everyone’s right to believe in what they want, no matter how ridiculous. However, I think there needs to be some sort of revolution. Some sort of change where the youth start to actively appreciate the beauty in the world around them, rather than having them train in how to destroy it.
Can you imagine how much time, money, and energy is wasted by these people in their efforts against homosexuality, efforts that will never succeed?
Can you imagine how many of these kids no longer have the innocent, beautiful light in their eyes?